The Things I Do For My Friends!
My friend and I were shopping one day. We went into a jewelry store, and my friend was immediately drawn to a necklace in a glass case. It was a very intricate design, with loops of gold spelling out a name. Her name! She and the owner began talking, and he told her that it was a one of a kind design, that only one had been made, and then the mold had been broken. She very much wanted to buy the necklace, but though she worked very hard, she did not have the money to pay for such a luxury. We left the store eventually, but all she talked about for the rest of the day was that necklace.
The next day, I went back to the store and I bought the necklace. I didn’t buy it for myself, I bought it for her. She can have it if she wants it. All she has to do is ask.
In the meantime, I put the necklace on every once in awhile, and look at myself in the mirror. It really is a beautiful necklace!
Some of my friends think I’m wrong for doing this, but I just don’t get it.
Girls can really be catty…can’t they?
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esmarelda replied:
If you bought to keep it for her incase she decides later that she wants it IMO there’s nothing wrong that.
On the other hand if a person would buy a necklace because they knew she would want it and maybe just hadn’t gotten there to purchase it yet so you could sell it to her at a greater cost or with intentions of getting something from her in return for doing her a favor I’d say it’s shifty and underhanded.
June 26, 2008 at 11:42 pm. Permalink.
henry8 replied:
Yes they can be catty. LOL
I guess my question would be, even if no money were ever involved why would you make your friend ask for something you knew they wanted or needed. Do you just enjoy admiring yourself in it even tho it has her name on it? Is it a way to force your friend into having more of a connection with you than she really wants?
It would never occur to me to buy something with my friends name on it just to force them to ask me for it.
But thats just me. 😉
June 27, 2008 at 1:16 am. Permalink.
makingfunofyourasses replied:
Oh, I knew she would want it…why, not? It had her name on it, not mine 🙂
She has the power…all she has to do is ask for it. Then the power shifts to me 🙂
June 27, 2008 at 4:11 am. Permalink.
henry8 replied:
Exactly!
June 27, 2008 at 5:10 am. Permalink.
celebrityblondebabe replied:
Does she know that you bought it? I guess the answer to that one would be yes…especially if you wear it on occasion. I think you said…you bought it FOR HER. I would think you would give it to her. Some people think that asking for something is not right. I don’t ask…if someone does not want to give it to me, in that spirit…then, I don’t want it. I just am not sure why power is an issue.
June 27, 2008 at 7:19 am. Permalink.
SHL replied:
What would be freaking hilirious(sp) is if your friend didn’t know you bought it and showed up with the “one of a kind” necklace or if both of you went bck to the same store and there displayed is another one.
June 27, 2008 at 7:31 pm. Permalink.
CarleneG replied:
But what if she knew that you had purchased the necklace because you had discussed purchasing it with her. And she knew that you were holding it, that it was safe with you, and that any time she decided that she wanted or needed it, it was hers?
Why insist on putting a negative spin on something, when there is no reason to? I assume all parties involved in what we are really talking about are intelligent adults, and quite capable of dealing with the “necklace” situation all by themselves. They are also the only ones who know and understand their personal relationship. We shouldn’t allow our opinion of who we like or don’t like (since we don’t actually know either party) to blow a minor thing way out of proportion.
June 27, 2008 at 11:40 pm. Permalink.
hopelesslydevoted2tay replied:
CBB I agree that if you buy a necklace for someone there’s no reason they should have to ask for it. I guess I wouldn’t wear it first either when I buy someone a gift I don’t usually use it first then give it. I would give it then ask to borrow it haha just kidding.
June 28, 2008 at 1:22 am. Permalink.
makingfunofyourasses replied:
You’re right, Carlene, there is no reason to blow it out of proportion.
So, maybe when my other friends found out that I bought the necklace, I shouldn’t have said anything at all. Because no matter how I explain what happened, people are going to view it from different angles.
🙂
June 28, 2008 at 3:47 pm. Permalink.
CarleneG replied:
Thats probably true, sometimes when you try to explain a situation it only makes matters worse. As long as the parties actually involved understand whats going on, it isn’t really necessary to try and explain to the rest of the world!
June 28, 2008 at 7:04 pm. Permalink.
Whatever replied:
Maybe the friend she bought the necklace for could care less about the necklace. Maybe the friend just isn’t into necklaces. Did you ever think about it that way?
June 28, 2008 at 8:02 pm. Permalink.
esmarelda replied:
Carlene unfortunately when they make their situation known to the world they will end up explaining themselves whether that’s right or wrong. It’s best just to keep these things private I think or else be subject to scrutiny. It leaves the question why would they tell everyone about something that is just between them.
June 28, 2008 at 10:12 pm. Permalink.
chill replied:
Say this friend, whom you’re holding the necklace for, has a huge group of admirers that are interested in everything she wears and consider her to be their fashion icon. If she were to wear that necklace, her admirers would think that it was trendy and hip and cool. But, alas, if you wear the necklace, even though it’s a necklace of her name, her admirers see it as a knock-off and not trend-setting at all, and they may resent you for wearing the name of their fashion icon around your neck. These admirers are very protective of their fashion icon and accept no imitation.
June 29, 2008 at 2:04 am. Permalink.
CarleneG replied:
Ah, but if the friend doesn’t mind if you wear the necklace, what business is it of the others? Could they just be jealous that you can wear the necklace and they cannot? Maybe the friend finds the admirers intrusive for questioning things that don’t really involve them.
June 29, 2008 at 3:47 am. Permalink.
chill replied:
But if the friend wears the necklace with the expectation and hopes that it will be noticed by the fashion icon’s admirers and expects and hopes the admirers will want to look at her wearing it on a daily basis, then she should expect the questions. If she doesn’t want the admirers to see her wearing it, then I would agree with you, it’s not their business.
June 29, 2008 at 6:01 am. Permalink.
spinshack replied:
I’m just not getting it I guess. If I were shopping with a ‘friend’ and she admired a necklace but could not afford it, especially if it had her name on it, I’d either not buy it or if I did, I’d truly buy it for her, which means I’d give it to her; she’d not have to ask.
Power comes in many forms but for those who abuse it for personal gratification speaks of their weakness. It will leave dissatisfaction in the wake of the action.
June 29, 2008 at 2:21 pm. Permalink.
makingfunofyourasses replied:
So….I probably shouldn’t go back and buy the matching bracelet, huh?
🙂
June 29, 2008 at 4:07 pm. Permalink.
chill replied:
hahaha
June 29, 2008 at 6:08 pm. Permalink.
divachickie replied:
What if you offered the necklace to the friend and they say “Thanks, can you hold on to it for me?” “I will let you know when I need it, you keep it for safe keeping.”
I know for a fact that a friend of mine is doing just that.
June 29, 2008 at 9:50 pm. Permalink.
spinshack replied:
There is no logic in your comment, divachickie. Man, convolution of thought processes seem to rule among some of the feminine gender. You’re missing the point. The friend liked it. The friend had no money to buy it. ‘Asses had the money and went back alone and bought it. She’s not giving it to the friend, rather she wants the friend to ‘ask for it’ so the power swings in her favor.
With friends like that… lol
No offense man, I just don’t agree nor understand your logic or the need.
I think more like a guy I suppose.
June 30, 2008 at 3:10 am. Permalink.
makingfunofyourasses replied:
Me, too, spinshack, me too!
June 30, 2008 at 3:26 am. Permalink.
divachickie replied:
spinshack, are you familiar with the word “Metaphor”?
This blog is very transparent as to what they are really talking about.
To be honest, it is none of anyone’s business as to how the “necklace ownership” is to be handled.
June 30, 2008 at 3:28 am. Permalink.
makingfunofyourasses replied:
You got me!
🙂
June 30, 2008 at 4:15 am. Permalink.
spinshack replied:
hmm, man, I’m just talking about a necklace, darlin’ divachickie; heightened awareness is just flying by me.lol
June 30, 2008 at 5:29 am. Permalink.
divachickie replied:
OH PLEASE, you girls can’t be THAT dumb or is the word “katty”?
June 30, 2008 at 11:08 am. Permalink.
jewelry designer replied:
Speaking of necklaces…I hear there’s a beautiful matching bracelet that will be on display soon.
June 30, 2008 at 12:57 pm. Permalink.
makingfunofyourasses replied:
🙂
June 30, 2008 at 2:52 pm. Permalink.
ohmygawditsme replied:
If you go to the trouble of buying the necklace you should tell her you have it immediately. Doesn’t make sense to “hold onto it” I would say.
I’ve bought a few necklaces in my life so I know. Sometimes though, even when you tell your friend you bought a necklace you think they’d like, getting it from you might not be at the top of their priority list.
Which can be fine with both parties but seems to bother those who are uninvolved.
June 30, 2008 at 6:57 pm. Permalink.